Family Is Everything

Family Is Everything,

When you are young  you learn everything from your parents. Along the way they teach you how to eat on your own, they potty train you, they show you  how things work, they teach you and guide you through the years to become the individual that you are. Along the way you become you.. Who you really are, you make friends and become independent.
You go through school, hopefully you are a good student and take in everything that you can and in between you make mistakes. Hopefully you learn from those mistakes and grow..

 At some point we lose sight of what our parents have done for us, the sacrifices that they have made for us, and take them for granted. As we become older and wiser we realize that family is everything as they themselves get older and can't do for them selves.

I don't know what I would do without my parents, as some day that will become a reality. In the meantime now more than ever I have learned that all they want is for me to be happy and they feel then that they have done their job.. They accomplished the ultimate,  after all that is all we really want for our children is that they are happy and healthy.

Life is too short, appreciate, love , call and see your parents while you can because it doesn't last forever. So do yourself a favor don't get so lost that you can't find your way back.. We somehow ,somewhere get so busy running  doing and working  in the bustle of this thing called life that we forget that Family IS Everything.

Pushover

I really try to understand where people are coming from, I do.. I want that understanding and I feel I am patient, So nice to a fault.. Anyone else have the same issue? Do you get taken for granted? Hurt because of it? There's worse things in life than being too kind,  Verbalized boundaries are good :)

Studeous

School , Being a student young or older is tough. Whether you are in it and you are young, or you were brave enough to go back. The pressures are real, the stresses are real and the work needs to be done. If you stand half the chance of doing well and getting some decent offers when you graduate. I along with many others did not take school seriously then, and of course I regret it now.  I look back and think, if only I had done  it right when I had the chance.

I do not like to say I have regrets I don't, I would have done a couple of things differently when I was younger and school was one of them. I was a great student when I applied myself, so I know I was able..

We make a lot of acquaintances, and a few true real friends. The ones that we keep for a life time. I have children, and I have tried over and over to explain the real friendships and their value and to hold onto those because they are so rare. The kids think they are all friends and ride to you die kind, they're not and they blow my mind as to what they are willing to risk for these kids.

I try to let them see the importance of buckling down in the last couple years of their high school career so they see some will not go to school, and that if they (mine do) then they need to have that self discipline to  do the work and have limits.. Easier said then done, I just hope that some of what I say sticks. And you never really know until they are grown how it is going to go.

We just pray a lot and hope for the best.. And that is what I hope for any one who is reading this now if you are school aged? Not to sweat the small stuff, let it ride. I know it all seems so life altering at the time, and that THIS IS IT!!" But it's not, I promise . It passes and it gets better.

Enjoy your youth now while you can don't rush to grow up although we all do. And be kind to people.

Self Worth

So....

We question our selves enough right? What is our purpose here, are we productive , caring ,loving individuals are we successful enough?  So if someone asks you actually questions you about what you are giving  to the world ya know what I say? That person should already know how valuable you are to them. And that if they want to question you, they are not worth having in your life . That's what I think.
We are all important, and have something to offer this crazy busy world  like Passion, Love, Friendship, Individuality,Creativity, Support, Patience,Humor, Spirituality  and Compassion. We don't all have money, and those of us who do? Can choose to share it or not, either way no one should judge another.. People see others by who they hang with, their actions, their morality and how they behave. Now is the most crucial time I can ever remember to make LIFE COUNT.. Let it mean Something..
Feel good about you, and others, Trust  and be willing to compromise.. Smile and Laugh often this thing called life is a shorter ride than you think Appreciation is key,<3

Being Ok With You

Are you ok with hanging out with your self? Some of us are, others it seems weird.. Have you ever gone to a movie by your self? Or maybe gone to the beach your self, for a walk on a path in a park, or enjoy a solo bike ride ? How about going to a casino alone?
I have, and honestly? It is a great feeling to do those things by myself , when time and opportunity permit. Don't get me wrong, I am in a beautiful, Loving and happy relationship that is very gratifying. I have no complaints.
I think it is perfectly ok to do things like that on your own and I have.
It is appreciation for those little moments we take for our selves.

Moments

Seeing old Friends :) Is a beautiful thing, I have not seen these girls for 25+ Years!  And we picked up right where we left off. Laughing, Remenicsing and smiling with food and drink is more than I could have asked for.
It makes me happy,   I am very grateful for the moments we are given. They are Precious hold onto those moments.

Family Time

Family Trips when I was younger.....
Fond memories, Laughter, siblings, Bonding with the family. Now that I am older, I reflect with fond memories the time we shared. I have my own family now we do the same because I want that value to stick and grow with them too .Hopefully they reflect back on Family Time as I do , and also give that gift to their family..
I Treasure every moment :)

The C word... Is so scary whether Cancer is cured, curable or not.. I have to tell you that the minute I heard the word I wanted to crawl into a hole and curl into a ball and be invisible.
It has your mind racing a mile a minute, you don't know what to do next until you process.. And who's to say you even process right away? I was a mess, not for too long , because I had things to handle now. What to do first?
I called my significant other first, then my Mother. And if you are lucky enough to still have your mom and or dad, you know that all you want is to hear it's going to be ok.
And it was, it is. I mean I have a little bit longer to see and know for sure which way it will go, But I have already had the ultra sound, and Biopsy, and removal of my thyroid. Then The radiation, and Body scan.. I had to wait a year until my next scan which we are quickly approaching now.
So I have since gotten the ultra sound, and they saw lymph nodes were unsure about, and some thyroid left on the left side.
My fingers are crossed, and as positive as a person that I am?? I still worry what if?? I leave it in the hands of the big man upstairs.

Hormone In balance

Ok, SO I am 45 I'm still young I mean I am ancient in reference to my children! But I am still young. My recent events with Thyroid Cancer have thrown me right into menopause. Anyone else have the same issue? How did you handle it?
I struggle with physical issues daily, but obviously it could be worse! The main things are Fatigue, Joint Pain, More Emotional, and the thought of the cancer coming back.

I never realized how much that little gland controls!

Thanks For Checking My Blog Out!

Hey Everyone!

I want to introduce my self, and tell you a bit about my Blog. This is my blog, and I wanted to be able to share things with you that I share with the rest of my family and friends . So it is basically about My Life's Experiences, Medical challenges, Fashion for Women over 40,  Food, Recipes ,Jewelry, Travel ,Children, Love and Life's Struggles.

I hope that you will join me Sharing my journey .. It is a heck of a ride! Let's make it fun :)

Helping Hand

Having done work helping the homeless, women against abuse, orphaned children of Philadelphia I have had an incredible opportunity to contribute to my community. It was an incredible learning and growing experience. To hear people's stories, and to have an incredible passion for people as I do I will always be grateful for being given the chance.

And would do it again, and again. Have any of you helped your community ? Please share with me your experiences I would love to hear about it.

Positive Energy

Hurt and Anger can be transformed into positive energy with anything in your life. I feel it solely depends on your mental and emotional attitude. This is my opinion, and do not claim to know it all', But feel that throughout my life this is and has been a valuable tool that I myself have used and it has been proven to work quite efficiently!

We Don't Always See

Abuse comes in many forms, It is not always visible physically. It can be emotionally verbally or physically and they are all just as painful. The trick is to have enough self worth to know  that you are better and stronger than that and as soon as you break free? You your self are free ,and you can almost instantly see a more positive pattern of events happen in your life.

Just remember,... You are worth it!

Homeless

Have you been homeless before? Whether it was by your own choice to get out of a bad situation? Or by the doing of someone else ? Either way it is not fun, it's down right scary as hell. No matter what the experience has been in life? I have always tried to let it be a learning experience. It doesn't always have to be a good, or positive thing in order for us to learn or grow from it. Do you agree?

Humor

Life is funny,

I have learned over time to have a sense of humor about most everything that happens . Whether it be a Relationship in Love,  With a spouse? Or things that happen with your Children , Your job ,   Friendships.
It might be twisted and silly (my sense of humor) :) But it has most definitely gotten me through trying times in my life .
Is there a specific event that your sense of humor has gotten you through something?

Safe Place

Where is your favorite safe place?  Is it in the woods? By the water? With other people? Or by yourself? Everyone has a place, keep that safe make it yours and cherish it..

What calms you? Painting? Coloring? Working with clay? Pottery? Wood? Glass? Riding your bike?
I love to color, Riding a bike too.

Who Would You Choose

When something bad, or good happens who is the first person that you want to share it with? Is it a Child, Sibling, Parent ,Spouse? I am curious as to who you would choose?

Fears

What is scary to you? Is it emotional or physical? Is it about money, health? I truly believe that everything happens for a reason. And we are not given anything that we can not handle do you feel that way?

Listen To Yourself

Stay in tune with your body , mind , and spirit.. When one is off balance it seems to have a monumental affect on each of us. Listen to your inner selves, it's crucial.
We know our bodies better than any doctor, if it doesn't feel right? It usually isn't.

The Little Things

Sing, Smile at others, and walk in stead of drive somewhere.. 
It is amazing what we feel, and see. Take a breath of fresh air, put the phone away .Listen to your kids, look into their eyes and hear what they say.  Let them hear you too, take time away from technology even just for a short period of time to get back in tune with each other.. It is so important today to stay in touch with each other the world is so busy and stressful as it is.. Let's not add to it by feeling completely out of touch with your own family.

Togetherness

In this day and age, How many of you still eat dinner together as a family at the table? Do you talk about your day with each other?  Are cell phones allowed at the table? It is what I grew up with, eating at the table as a family and what I felt so important to instill in my family values as an adult, mother. I enjoy this time so much. It is SO valuable, and so precious.

I've Learned

The biggest teachers in my life besides my parents, are my children. I owe them so much, Much of my laughter and tears have come from them. I wouldn't change it , any of it I take the good with the bad. What's the fun in everything being good or bad all of the time? Think about it, we need challenges in order to feel alive and to learn what to do.

Laughter

There is nothing better than hearing the laughter of your children.. It is the best feeling knowing that they are happy, healthy and content. and safe.