The hardest thing to do is to get away from an abuser, to stop being abused you have to get your thoughts together , Muster up the strength and courage..Get your paperwork in order important papers go elsewhere with someone you trust . (If you have to leave that is ... If you don’t, you put them in your own safe away from access- File a PFA and keep the papers with you at all times . Try (if you have kids) to get someone in your family that you trust to watch your children so they don’t have to see it . If and when your PFA gets approved and if it’s a PFA that includes an eviction the abuser will be accusatory and angry ! Police will be present and you’ll be safe .
Know what you need to do and what your rights are! Be smart , pay attention .Most of the time women (or men ) stay because they don’t have the money to leave , they don’t have a car, no other place to stay and don’t want to go to a shelter.
I get it I have been there for years I was there and I am now free of abuse in my home and it is liberating .More calm less stress there’s a quietness about it and that’s when I’m not going to lie... That silence can be deafening, it’s when you can finally cry and start the process of healing slowly of lowering your shoulders from the stress you’re learning to be less jumpy and on edge and that survival mode you’ve been in for so long ? Starts to ease a bit.
It’s scary to deal with experiences you went through over whatever period of time you went through it. But when you can do it , muster up that courage and do it It’s so worth it . YOU are worth it you and your kids need this . For sanity and peace DO IT .
It’s so hard , But I Did IT
