A Parents Wish

When I think about where I am in life now at this point and at my age, I didn't realize how much I have accomplished until recently.. Let me explain, When you have a child or children you never really know how they will turn out you just hope that along the way you teach them the important essentials for them to turn out like responsible , caring , giving, compassionate , respectful adults.

And with the proper guidance and mutual respect for each other and education they will.
Now sure we make mistakes, no one is perfect . Kids and being a parent doesn't come with a manual..
Everything is a first.

Fist child, everything that happens is crucial they sniffle you call the doctor, you worry about every little thing! Am I right?!

Then if you have a second child(or more), you've learned from the first that it's not so scary, and to relax and that if it isn't major? A bump , a bruise, you pick them up check them out, and dust them off and tell them that they're ok and they're on their way.

But as they age , and begin to go into all of their many different phases of growth and life as separate entities and make their own mistakes and they are then old enough to be on their own you hope that they don't ever forget where they came from . The struggles you had whether minor or major the things you did together as a family , your bond . You pray that they come visit  you , spend time with you and call you  just to say hi at best..

I am now seeing that I did ok as a parent, my kids like me as a person I see visibly that they love me and that they want to spend time with me and value my opinions. They call me to ask my advice for different things.
That is what I and I think any parent can hope for.
I have four beautiful smart , compassionate, kind, sweet , loving, funny, children. I am grateful to have the honor of being a parent and the ability to have children. I am grateful to have all of the gifts that come along with being their parent and friend.
So , as long as you do your best, with honesty and patience and respect and teach them all you can it's all going to work out you'll see :)
A Parent's Wish

Safe Child

The thought for me as a parent of one of my children going missing takes my breath away. They don't give it a thought, me? I think about it often.. I was in a situation where my son was taken without my permission and kept against his will already once and it took me over a year to get him back. It was his father, he took him for a visit and then never brought him back to me brain washed him , and discharged him from school and for a whole school year.

It is raw and painful, scary and damaging. Therapy is key and open lines of communication between my son and I are crucial. I hug him often, I try my best to have patience always which can be trying! And  to listen and keep my mouth shut.

See my son didn't think that it was wrong because it was his father, and that was the confusing part to him.. Although now 3 years later he realizes it was wrong and was kidnapping. It must mess with his mind a little . He was missed , he is loved tremendously and I can't imaging losing him indefinitely... I would be broken, missing part of my soul to all who have lost a child my heart goes out to you I'm so sorry. I hope someday there can be some comfort found that you are a great parent and person and not to beat yourself up about it.

Don't be afraid to check in their rooms, listen in, ask questions and check on where they say they are because the thought of one of our children would be devastating.