I dedicate this post to You...

One does not know when you meet someone (generally) if he,/she is THE ONE". I will say that I felt it the minute I saw him, I was intrigued and needed to know more right then and there. I definitely was the pursuer.  My heart dropped" and I got this feeling , I just knew...

You might not agree, but I left my husband for this man ... Years later after my feeling was affirmed and we built a healthy strong beautiful relationship. But Yes I left and it was the best thing I could have done. I am happy, truly happy . He is a considerate , giving, and an unselfish man , and lover and an amazing father. There were in the beginning moments of doubt, until I really knew him and I don't doubt his intentions any longer.

No one "Knows" if this will last forever . Love, but one can hope and that we make the best of our relationship while we have it. People make mistakes, and things happen along the way. We learn from each other and grow together, if we don't and we aren't better people with the person we love then unfortunately I feel it's time to go.

There are situations where it is difficult to leave when you want , or need to. But you can't right away (been there). Be it's a money situation, abuse situation and you have to set up a safe place first I get that. But if and when you can? Do it, because it doesn't change... It only escalates and gets worse Only Once" turns into time after time .. Believe me been there too, But get out while you can you will gain your confidence back. You will see' after you are out of the situation just how unhealthy it really was once you have removed yourself from the sick environment you were in.

And if there is kids involved? They are helpless in this situation and stuck until you have enough courage to change the mess you're all in. So gather all of the strength that you possibly can if not for you? For those kids of yours and do it. Plan, gather , and save... Important things you need should be some where safe with someone you can trust... And Get out.

And then do not jump into a relationship until you have had a chance to heal you and your kids.
Love you first, invest in bonding with your children they are resilient, they will bounce back, but they need time too. And they will be forever grateful.

Unhealthy versus Healthy? I'll take healthy any day I am forever grateful for the man I ,We have in our life. I feel beautiful anyway but he makes me feel beautiful too.  The way he looks at me, the laughing we do together, he still checks me out" He notices the little things, He just knows, and makes sure that I am ok...
 I am safe and I know that I am loved :) Baby, I dedicate this to you-----

Which One?

Mountains? Or Beach? East or West Coast? Summer, Spring,Winter or Fall ?
Car, or Bike? Women or Men ? What kind of Politics? Music?  Traditional, Classic?  Religion? Religious or not?

Are you chill? Or Uptight? 
Are you business oriented? DO you drive take the bus or train? Maybe you ride your bike to get around..

Kids? No Kids and if no Why? City? Country? House, Big or Small? Apartment? Do you cook? Does he? What are the little things that mean the most to you that a significant other does with you? For you? What is your passion? Have you found it yet?

Just Curious,

These are things that have run through my mind. And I wonder  :)

What if This Isn't It?

Have you ever day dreamed about what if? What if after we live our beautiful lives full and happy as we can be and it is our time what next? What happens then? Does it all come down to each persons faith? Or is it more than that? Is it a faith thing at all?

Do we have to be religious or believe in a higher power to come back as something, or someone else? As an animal or some other form of life? One does not know, but I believe that it is healthy and productive to think there IS something else after life...

How would we know? Life as we know it on this planet is over until it is time for us to live again .. And so for now, the forever learning and curious me will continue to wonder "What If"....

Because I can :)