Discipline

How far would you go to discipline your children? How much is enough? What is too little? Love for our children is genuine.. Un conditional, and it is necessary to look out for our children. They are not always going to like us, and that is ok because we're not doing it right if they aren't angry at us from time to time. Right? After all, you can't be friends" With your child/dren until they are much older and realize what our true purpose is here in life. That our sole existence is not to serve them and for them to take us for granted... Right?

So that being said, I am curious as to how far would you go to lay into your kids to protect them either in the now, or for protection in the near or far future ? It is a valid question... I would really appreciate your stories, and sharing your experiences with me .. Tell me where and what, and why's.

Kids of all ages, Need Discipline.

On The Catwalk

We have a Dog that thinks that he is a cat, and a Cat that thinks that he is a dog... I did not expect this at ALL! It is funny to see them together, you can tell that in their short time together they really are like brothers. I could not have asked for better pets..

So I suppose after the cat watching for so long he has picked up the interest for a walk" by seeing the dog go out on a leash. So We got a collar, and a leash for Mr. Meowgy and joked around about the idea before we actually took it and the cat seriously. It's a big step committing to taking the cat out on a leash ya know?!

So this is it , THE day!
We put a leash on this smart boy, he flops over and plays dead... It's a no GO PEople! We try again, He does not want to leave the house. We try again he goes out front but bucks like a mini bronco because he isn't used to the leash.

But finally we put the leash on him, and he walked on his own..No Pulling, no dragging a limp cat he walked as if he had been walking on a leash his whole life(1 Yr ) of it haha.
It felt great! And Mr. Meowgy looked around, and crouched down real low stalking birds and listening to all of the sounds around him taking in the earth and then he rolled around in the dirt.

When He was done, I gave him a bath right away so we don't have a problem with fleas ..He fought me and tried everything to get out of that tub! Apparently he does not like baths but I did it quickly and got him all cleaned up and wrapped him up like a little baby in 2 Towels. It is amazing that I still have skin left on my arms!
The next day we took him for a walk, he tried to run out and get away from us, not realizing that there was a leash attached to him and we were holding onto the other end.

We let him lead us to where he wanted to go, as opposed to us taking him.. And it seemed like he knew exactly where he was going. We walked him and the dog Huggy  Bear together..I can only imagine the looks we were getting but I didn't care! We were having so much fun. On The Catwalk

We Live on

In our children...Through their eyes , their smiles, as they grow and become adults.. It's the reason why we procreate right?  To carry on our names, our gene pools..
 As they go to school , work , get married and have children of their own, We live on.. Happily to see them happy and healthy, Productive members of society my eyes well up just thinking about the possibilities of where their journeys will take them.

Hoping that along they way they are good to people, and in return people are then good to them. Generosity , Kindness, Compassion finds them  and they are genuine..

That they have some challenges along the way but that generally they have easy lives not cold hard tough lives... All struggles are real, Whether they are Mentally, Physically, or Emotionally, Financially.

When we are gone, We Live On...

Grand Children

What sweet little human beings they are...
I feel so fortunate to be a Grandma , and to be close enough geographically to see my Grand daughter on a regular basis and see how she is growing and see her mind at work.. It is humbling and
beautiful :)

The special people they are and the joy and pride I get from our relationship growing is like no other. She is my first, won't be my last as I have four children. The first of many to come and I am really looking forward to it!

Is that how you felt? When you became a Grand parent?

True Happiness

I have had my share of failed relationships... As we all have,  and I could and would never try to only place the blame on the other person. As we live and experience things and learn what we really want for our own lives, and what we then want in and out of a relationship it is a cool transition as well.

So once we have figured all of that out{ I feel fortunate to have done that} As some people don't. Or late in life have not still... And maybe that is what they prefer, or they had no choice due to their own lifes  experiences.. I have, and I am grateful.

I will say it feels damn good! It feels good that I can let me hair down and not have to portray someone I am not... It feels great that as I wake and look my worst, lol  I am not judged , funky breath, sleep in the eyes, smeared make up if I wore any the day prior...I can go to the bathroom with the door open, I can be me and he loves me for me ..  My weight fluctuations, Hospital  and medical issues.. He never ceases to amaze me.

The kisses on the forehead, the un divided attention even with kids! The feeling of being safe no matter what and being appreciated are to die for!!! It's better and sweeter than all of my favorite entree's and desserts and dream places to go and famous people to meet wrapped up all in one :)

I can appreciate and be appreciated... And the laughs are endless he's a keeper people! And I know it's mutual  so there ya have it I have found THE ONE"

Couldn't be more extactic :)

In the Eye Of The Beholder

Beauty comes in many forms...(In my opinion) It is not always topical, and on the outside.. I have seen and known some visually beautiful people on the outside. Men and women, and they have turned out to be so very ugly.. Ugly in that they will not share of themselves, personally, monetarily, physically, or materialistically.
 
And then there are others, who are not visually beautiful. And yet they are beautiful in that they want to share... Of themselves, emotionally , physically, mentally, monetarily, materialistically, they are just happy ,in general with life, with them selves.. It amazes me--- Really :)

And when some one has a beautiful mind, body & soul all seems in sync with what should be. I don't know what the difference is honestly is it religion? Upbringing? What do you think it is? I don't know if I want to necessarily figure it out I am just sharing an opinion for an opinion.

Clean Scan Result

That's RIGHT FOLKS!! I after another RAI Treatment  in preparation for another body scan, and weeks of slugging (No Really) Slugging through not taking my thyroid medicine in preparation for the body scan have taken all of my doctors orders..

I have traveled with Children across country with out being on Thyroid medication and been exhausted and traveled down south and my family has been very understanding and patient with me and we have great results this scan!

It proves to be a very emotional journey , but helps me grow... I really just want this over with, all of it the other four years of having to go through the same thing to be considered in remission... But I am so very grateful that I do not have to go through Kemo therapy So I will count my blessings where they lay and run with them! Very HAPPY.

I Thank the Beautiful Butterfly who gave me the sign that I asked for on Friday as I lay in the scanner and Saturday got my Un official answer from above :) This Creature cut me off Saturday, and landed right in front of me... I went shopping  and on my way back home she was still there! Any way, Anyone who has had to go through this Is going through this, or will go through it.. Just somehow know that it will be ok :)

Wearing What Fits us

I know now being "Middle Aged" is to some (not me) But some can not seem to get a grasp of being middle aged and having to dress like a grown up. Lol but come on, you do look in the mirror before you leave the house right? I mean can visibly see what you have picked out, chosen to wear , put it on and then left the house wearing it correct? I may be spouting off a bit here but COME ON!

I see more and more of what shouldn't be worn by adult women then I do younger kids. I understand you want to look younger, I do too but there are ways to do that without you looking foolish people . Please... I do not want to see your muffin top hanging over your pants because your shirt is way too short or too tight or too small.  butt crack hanging out because the cut of your jeans is not right.

I don't know if that is all you have to wear? And that is understandable, but if it is stuff that is current" and " in then why not go with someone to shop with who will give you an honest yes honest opinion of how it looks on you because then it's just silly.. And there is nothing better then a sharp and respectfully dressed woman to turn heads instead of trying to put all your junk out there . Because when I catch my self looking at a woman who is dressed in appropriately? It is not because I think she looks appealing, it's because she looks foolish and that is what I am thinking. Sorry , had to be said. Up to date make up solutions help you look up to date and classy, hair styles and clothing it all plays a part...

Look on line check it out current styles 2015, hair , makeup, clothes... For love of G-D :)
No offense I know it might feel good to look cute and if you can pull it off tastefully? Rock on Girlfriends! But if not, spare us all.. By the way, that goes the same for men who dress sloppy  and they are in their 40's still wearing baggy huge shorts with their hats backwards NO..It is not working. or a man wearing skinny jeans that shouldn't.

Let's dress our age people! We are of course ... Middle Aged now.

Donating to Help Others

I would like to think of myself as a civil servant... Although not active in one specific group? I would love to help many, and I have helped and given to the homeless, woman Against abuse, and Orphaned Children of Philadelphia.. That already being said it would be great for people to alternate the organizations that they help so it can go in some sort of cycle.

I know so many need help, and when there are natural and or regular disasters where people need help too it can be difficult to narrow down whom to give to. All I am saying that women in hiding with children need everything , homeless need everything , people who have been in a hurricane , or tornado need everything if you are throwing things away can it be alternated to who you give to so everyone gets a chance? That would be great!

There are also organizations like homes for boys, girls, orphanages that need school supplies, Holiday baskets, Christmas toys, Holiday items, electronics, Jackets, Boots ect .. Thanks for anything at all that you can give to anything makes a difference and it brings a smile to everyone's face to be thought of.

It's getting to be that time again, So if you have already done your spring cleaning and donated? Thanks, If you have cleaned out and don't know who to give to ? Well there are some suggestions for you :) Soup Kitchens too! Veterans... The list is endless -- It starts with one, and it becomes contagious .

Adhd

Having a child with ADHD  is challenging, stressful some days more than others to put it lightly. And before I finally decided to take the leap into opting to go into the world of medicine as it pertains to my son for his disorder , it was even crazier!

Some days I did dread even getting out of bed , for what I knew I would be facing through out the day.. Obviously I did get out of bed, but any of you know if you have a child that has Adhd you understand what I mean. After counseling sessions, and opinions and second opinions and weighing the options for your child and his health you make the final decision and just decide..You suddenly become ready to do it. Then it seems I became gung ho about it.. There are  still bad days as with anything, but life is easier and the quality is better.

Life is good, I am grateful always I learn along the way still.. And the day that I don't? Is the day I am not "living " my life with my family.. So lets keep plugging along!

New Day

As I wake, Ahhhh opening my eyes stretching and grateful that I've been given another day I say a new day. A fresh start a chance, yet another opportunity to do some good. Help someone that might need help, hold a hand, get a door for someone, carry groceries for an elder, call someone whos day it will make , make someone who was not smiling Smile.

Now I know what you're saying, Bah we can't always do that... But we can, every day just one thing if everyone does just one thing like that each day? Imagine the possibilities? The chance to do that is always there, try it for a week and see how good it feels, like a personal challenge just like when you make that deal with your self to lose weight, or that you're going to get that closet or desk reorganized.. Hell, Try it for one day and see how great it feels! Then see how you will want to do that all of the time. Because it's A New Day :)
Go!

Summer Learning

Am I that old school that I still feel it's so crucial that our kids read,...From a book that is, Not from a kindle or a phone but a real book? Every day, even if it is a used book that I buy from the Library I am always trying to build the kids library at home. I just think that is so important that they one read but secondly if they have a love for it they'll just do it naturally . Without a fight , And so during the summer it is even more important to do that.

Having Library cards and seeing what interests them is fun, hanging out with them is great. I love it!
Events that they have there are great too. So what do you think?  What do you do doing the summer? Do you do museums? Do you go to the shore? I would really like to hear about what you like to do to spend time with the family, and have fun..

Reality Check

Hey Gals and Guys,

It's been a bit since I have written...Traveling  and recovering is time consuming.
I'm going to be brutally honest here, I had a rude awakening last year ...TWICE-

Once due to an accident that had my life literally flash before my eyes, and then in the same month then being diagnosed with Thyroid Cancer.. It has been a rough year. Between recovery from injuries, and then surgery and body scans following. It is exhausting.. My road to recovery is on going, It looks like I am ok on the outside. But physically it is still an ongoing exhausting process and any body who is or has experienced this knows.

So, that being said  in all of that happening? You start to feel "Not Invincible " Anymore...You start to re evaluate what really matters, and to me? What really matters is Family. My children , Spouse, And my parents.. Because those people love Unconditionally.. Everything else no matter what you think? Is superficial. I'm not doubting you have true friends, But come on...

My youth had a reality check like in the face with a frying pan BAM!!! So What I myself have done is just re evaluate what I'm doing here, what I want to do.. That I'm still here because I have much more work to do , and by the grace I am still here.. I am grateful for every day that I have and that I am still present.. Take risks, Share, Love , Do something OUTSIDE the Box...

For we are not Invincible.

Listen to your Inner Self

Iv'e been thinking,
Anytime I even consider doing something especially if it is significant, I need to listen to that voice ... What does my inner voice tell me? Now I have a choice, I have a choice to do the right thing or to make a poor choice. We all have that option, it is something that we learn as we grow and gain some knowledge as to wether or not this is going to effect me personally and the people we love..

Not everyone does it ,even if they have the conscience to do it.. Others have that ability, and choose to ignore it and some just do it. Which one are you? And sometimes you just do instinctively, and whether or not you like the outcome? You did the right thing and damn that feels good!

I , honestly rarely made the right choices when I was younger.. I didn't I admit it because I was young and selfish and didn't think about the impact that I as one person had on someone else let alone the impact that I could have on many...

So here it is , as you grow you learn we've talked about this before... And you realize things.. Things that you had no CLUE about in your earlier years. Then? You appreciate, then you try to make better choices and consider your loved ones becaue we've  learned that we as individuals have such a deep effect on eachother that what each of us decide can be so completely infectious in a positive way , or negatively that it is much better to be the positive than the negative.
If only we could all do that , right? Whether we are more caring than others and we get taken advantage of, or we are too tall , too short, too thin, too heavy, lots of hair, no hair, illness, healthy if we can just slow down to consider the next person wouldn't we live in a much healthier , and happier place?

So let's try it, you and I let'stry to think about things before they come out of our mouths and before we act hastily.. And Listen to Our Inner Selves.

Thanks for Listening, Keep coming back for more!  Love the views-

Family Is Everything

Family Is Everything,

When you are young  you learn everything from your parents. Along the way they teach you how to eat on your own, they potty train you, they show you  how things work, they teach you and guide you through the years to become the individual that you are. Along the way you become you.. Who you really are, you make friends and become independent.
You go through school, hopefully you are a good student and take in everything that you can and in between you make mistakes. Hopefully you learn from those mistakes and grow..

 At some point we lose sight of what our parents have done for us, the sacrifices that they have made for us, and take them for granted. As we become older and wiser we realize that family is everything as they themselves get older and can't do for them selves.

I don't know what I would do without my parents, as some day that will become a reality. In the meantime now more than ever I have learned that all they want is for me to be happy and they feel then that they have done their job.. They accomplished the ultimate,  after all that is all we really want for our children is that they are happy and healthy.

Life is too short, appreciate, love , call and see your parents while you can because it doesn't last forever. So do yourself a favor don't get so lost that you can't find your way back.. We somehow ,somewhere get so busy running  doing and working  in the bustle of this thing called life that we forget that Family IS Everything.

Pushover

I really try to understand where people are coming from, I do.. I want that understanding and I feel I am patient, So nice to a fault.. Anyone else have the same issue? Do you get taken for granted? Hurt because of it? There's worse things in life than being too kind,  Verbalized boundaries are good :)

Studeous

School , Being a student young or older is tough. Whether you are in it and you are young, or you were brave enough to go back. The pressures are real, the stresses are real and the work needs to be done. If you stand half the chance of doing well and getting some decent offers when you graduate. I along with many others did not take school seriously then, and of course I regret it now.  I look back and think, if only I had done  it right when I had the chance.

I do not like to say I have regrets I don't, I would have done a couple of things differently when I was younger and school was one of them. I was a great student when I applied myself, so I know I was able..

We make a lot of acquaintances, and a few true real friends. The ones that we keep for a life time. I have children, and I have tried over and over to explain the real friendships and their value and to hold onto those because they are so rare. The kids think they are all friends and ride to you die kind, they're not and they blow my mind as to what they are willing to risk for these kids.

I try to let them see the importance of buckling down in the last couple years of their high school career so they see some will not go to school, and that if they (mine do) then they need to have that self discipline to  do the work and have limits.. Easier said then done, I just hope that some of what I say sticks. And you never really know until they are grown how it is going to go.

We just pray a lot and hope for the best.. And that is what I hope for any one who is reading this now if you are school aged? Not to sweat the small stuff, let it ride. I know it all seems so life altering at the time, and that THIS IS IT!!" But it's not, I promise . It passes and it gets better.

Enjoy your youth now while you can don't rush to grow up although we all do. And be kind to people.

Self Worth

So....

We question our selves enough right? What is our purpose here, are we productive , caring ,loving individuals are we successful enough?  So if someone asks you actually questions you about what you are giving  to the world ya know what I say? That person should already know how valuable you are to them. And that if they want to question you, they are not worth having in your life . That's what I think.
We are all important, and have something to offer this crazy busy world  like Passion, Love, Friendship, Individuality,Creativity, Support, Patience,Humor, Spirituality  and Compassion. We don't all have money, and those of us who do? Can choose to share it or not, either way no one should judge another.. People see others by who they hang with, their actions, their morality and how they behave. Now is the most crucial time I can ever remember to make LIFE COUNT.. Let it mean Something..
Feel good about you, and others, Trust  and be willing to compromise.. Smile and Laugh often this thing called life is a shorter ride than you think Appreciation is key,<3

Being Ok With You

Are you ok with hanging out with your self? Some of us are, others it seems weird.. Have you ever gone to a movie by your self? Or maybe gone to the beach your self, for a walk on a path in a park, or enjoy a solo bike ride ? How about going to a casino alone?
I have, and honestly? It is a great feeling to do those things by myself , when time and opportunity permit. Don't get me wrong, I am in a beautiful, Loving and happy relationship that is very gratifying. I have no complaints.
I think it is perfectly ok to do things like that on your own and I have.
It is appreciation for those little moments we take for our selves.

Moments

Seeing old Friends :) Is a beautiful thing, I have not seen these girls for 25+ Years!  And we picked up right where we left off. Laughing, Remenicsing and smiling with food and drink is more than I could have asked for.
It makes me happy,   I am very grateful for the moments we are given. They are Precious hold onto those moments.